If you've had a rotten date experience, raise your hand! Ha! I knew it. Everyone raised their hand on that one. That's just the way it goes on the dating scene. However, what many people don't realize is that sometimes it's due to their own behavior and demeanor. Maybe that guy or gal wasn't really all that bad you just made it that way. On the other hand, there are some certified losers. Here we give some guidelines on successful dating strategies and habits which will help you minimize those disappointing dates.
Aside from the occasional blind date, it's a smart idea to get to know your date a little before going out on a 'real' date. If it's someone at work you might like to date, talk with them on break, go for a walk at lunch or have lunch at the cafeteria. Meet for coffee. Give yourself an opportunity to get some insight into what they're about. You may hit it off and you may not. If it becomes readily apparent that the two of you are on different wavelengths, why waste any more time on a losing proposition? You can still be friendly. Taking this step before accepting or asking for a date is a hallmark of successful dating.
OK. This person has passed your once over. You arrange a date. Just because you know a little bit about this person doesn't give you the right to criticize, humiliate or embarrass your date. You'd be surprised at how many people do this without even thinking. This type of behavior is definitely not a successful dating strategy.
Have a sense of humor. This doesn't mean you have to be a walking joke book. This just means that you don't have to jump on every real or imagined slight. Take remarks with a grain of salt. If something said does truly offend you, take the high road. Be gracious. Perhaps the comment was ill phrased. Keep an open mind throughout the date. If your date continues in this manner and your sense of humor is worn out, just let it go. And don't go out with them again.
Pay attention to hygiene. There's probably nothing more to say on that subject. Oh, but, at the same time, don't be fussing with your hair or making multiple trips to the restroom for makeup touch-ups or an additional spritz of after shave. This just makes you look vain or insecure. Not a successful dating habit.
Be yourself. So many people try to appear to be someone they're not, thinking they might enhance their image with their date in this way. Think of it this way. If you do continue dating this person, sooner or later they'll find out what you're really like. Your date will feel deceived, or at least think you're a phony. Being authentic and genuine in your responses is one of the most important successful dating habits.
Show that you are interested in your date. This may seem like a no-brainer, but in fact many people spend the entire date talking about themselves, their favorite subject. This is boring. Ask your date questions which aren't terribly personal, but designed to bring them out. If you ask them a question and they spend the next hour answering, you've got a clue to this person's agenda.
Hopefully, putting these strategies and habits in place will help you have a successful dating life with a minimum of duds.
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