Who Should You Ask For Wedding Help?

Once your significant other has asked you to marry them, the next thing on your mind is going to be planning your wedding. Whether you are getting married six weeks, six months, or two years from now, you want to get started on your plans. This is an exciting time, but you can not do everything on your own, especially if the wedding is coming up soon. You can ask people to give you wedding help, but you should be careful who you ask to help you and what you ask them to do. If you put some thought into this early, you can avoid big problems in the end.

You have to think about your own strengths and weaknesses when you think about when you are going to need wedding help. If you are not good at talking on the phone, perhaps you want someone who can help you find and contact vendors and locations for you. If you are not good with money, perhaps you want wedding help with budgeting and getting the best price. Perhaps you want to have someone who can help with whatever you need at the moment. As you can imagine, some people are going to be better than others and some are going to end up making you miserable.

If you do not have a great relationship with someone, like your mother in law, you may think asking her for wedding help can change your relationship for the better. That can be the case, but not if you end up fighting over what you ask her to do, or even worse, what she decides to do on her own. Find small tasks for her to help you with that you know she can do without your input. Perhaps she can confirm reservations for you, or she can pick up things that you have already bought and paid for. Know the limits of your relationship before you ask her for wedding help.

You will want to get wedding help from someone who can go to find your dress with you, help you at fittings, and do all those things that you need a second opinion on. Think about which of your friends is the most reliable and which one has tastes most like your own. You want the friend that you can always rely on and that will know instinctively when you are upset and what to do to help you. Patience is always a great virtue with someone who you want to ask for wedding help and planning ideas.

Asking too many people for wedding help can lead to problems and even splintered relationships. If you ask your unreliable yet spontaneous friend to help with something important, and she forgets, you may be angry with her for a very long time. This is not what you want to happen. Instead, give her something to do, if she wants to help, that you know she'll do well. If you think about which friends are most cut out to be of real help when you need it, you will cut down on disappointment, anger, and even lost friendships. Weddings are supposed to be joyous occasions. A little thought early on can help keep yours that way.