Help With Disrespectful Teens

I have a six year old daughter who is what some would call spirited. She has a tendency to forget herself, even at this age, and she acts like a teenager. Not all teens are out of control, of course, but there are plenty of disrespectful teens out there. You could have one of them. I am very much worried that despite my good intentions, that is what I am going to be dealing with in about ten years. If you have this problem, you should understand why it happens and even what you can do about it when things get out of hand.

I know that in some small part, I was one of those disrespectful teens. I try to keep those memories alive so that I can remember what it was like when I was a teenager for when my daughter reaches that age. I know that there were times I had no idea I was being a pain, I was just lashing out. Some go through the teen years have problems and some do not. More often than not, however, you are going to know a few disrespectful teens, and one of them could be yours. They may not know what they are doing.

Teenagers can become rebellious for a variety of reasons, but one thing that parents should remember is that this is a part of growing up. In a way, it means that when they leave home it is a bit of a relief on both parts. It does not seem right, but that is what happens. Those teens must go out on their own. If they feel too attached, they are not going anywhere. They are going to love you the same, but they are going to want to be on their own. You can view disrespectful teens are ones that are feeling out being on their own and having responsibility for themselves by wishing you were not so involved. It does not make it right or easy to live with, but it makes a lot of sense.

However, that being said, you can not allow your disrespectful teens to get away with it. This is a time when they are learning who they are, and you do want them to learn that they can be better people than they are portraying themselves to be at the moment. That might not be who they think they are, but they are having a hard time dealing with all that is going on and all that they are feeling. It is a confusing time in life, so keep that in mind when deciding what to do with your disrespectful teens.

One thing you should do it to be sure you do not let bad behavior from disrespecting teens go unnoticed and unpunished. State the punishment and stick with it no matter what. You can also offer them a chance to talk with you about what is really bothering them. Most of the time, when disrespectful teens lash out at parents or other adults, it has nothing to do with what they are saying or doing. They could very well be hurting from something going on elsewhere or are just plain confused about life in general.